Layers of a Woman

Layers of a Woman
Complicated Like Every Woman I Know

Monday, June 1, 2015

Lord I thank you

God thank you for giving me my hearts desire. To have a family that serves you. As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.

Thursday, May 14, 2015

Hey there! I'm excited about my new book coming's a little sneak peek! Book Trailer

Thursday, April 30, 2015


Life is life. It doesn't stop or have knowledge of all the other events that occur daily. It just happens! Life, death, disappointments, and accomplishments. Life is life. However how you prepare and react to your life matters. You cannot sit on the side lines and throw yourself a pity party. Life will pass you by if you're not actively participating. It's like a parade. You can either be in the parade, waving, smiling, and having a good time, or on the side lines picking up candy from the ground as a spectator. 

This week has been awful for me yet joyous. Does this sound familiar? It can be the best and worst time of your life all at the same time. One of my closest friends was killed in a car accident , my aunt died, my middle daughter had surgery on you mouth, yet I landed a huge contract with a celebrity client. Really life, really? Yes that's life for you. You must learn when to mourn, when to laugh, and when to push through your pain to get to the other side of joy. The joy I'm referring to is joy in Christ Jesus. A life with Him is Hell on earth. I opt out. I lived hell on earth for too long and will not give Satan another day to steal my joy. God has been too good to me to forget how amazing He truly is, even in the mist of my storms. Storms are hard, but I have learned how to find peace. Instead of complaining about the rain. Think about how much can grow from it. Plants grow, crops grow so we may have food, even you will grow. Trust God through your storm. Life is life.

RIP Leah O'Brien
Life is nothing without love. Love your family, love your friends, love to help others, and love you. You can do all this through Christ Jesus. I'm so blessed to have friends and family that love me. Losing my friend Leah hurts, but the memories are countless. Good friends know all of your stories, best friends were there.

Sunday, April 19, 2015

Kinney Girls

My girls are such a blessing and I learn more about myself through raising them. All four girls competed in a beauty pageant yesterday and they were amazing. They weren't caught up on the hype, they just wanted to have fun. I really enjoyed being there with them and watching them create memories together. My husband was "Pageant Dad". He was wonderful. He didn't get frustrated with us one time.....That's amazing considering we had a total of 16 dresses, suitcases, and was dead in the middle of potty training our youngest daughter.

But we made it!!! AND.. I'm proud to say that our youngest is now completely potty trained. Praise God!

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

How to Encourage Yourself

Life can be overwhelming sometimes and
you could fall into depression if you lack daily encouragement. It’s easier to
stay encouraged than to pull yourself out from depression. Most of us agree that
preventive maintenance is better than digging yourself out from being depressed
or discouraged. There are many benefits to having a positive attitude and being
encouraged especially when you’re experiencing hard times. Lack of encouragement
can cause some women to feel rejected, insignificant, and under-appreciated. I
must inform you that if you’re seeking outside validation then you may become
disappointed each time. You have to search within yourself and pull out that
inner strength of knowing your worth and value. It’s dangerous to sit around and
wait for other people to affirm you. What if no one takes the time to encourage
you? When you chose to hand over that control to someone else, your happiness is
placed in the palm of their hand and you become the victim if they fail to meet
your expectations.

Encouraging yourself will take some
practice. You must learn to cancel out your negative thoughts by an abundance of
positive thoughts towards yourself. Your mind and thoughts can become your worst
enemy and it will take some work to lead your thoughts and not follow your
negative thoughts. Here are some tips to practice

  •  Do Not trust your
    feelings-sometimes your emotions can and will deceive you.
  • Focus on
    your assets and not your short comings.
  • Surround
    yourself with positive people.
  • When
    receiving advice, ALWAYS consider the source.
  • Don’t ignore
    compliments, write down the compliments that people give you.
  • Whenever you
    get discouraged refer to your compliment notes.

Writing your compliments down could
literally become a life saver. There are times in life when you may become too
weak mentally, emotionally, and spiritually to pull any encouragement out. If
this ever happens, your book of compliments can offer you the encouragement that
you need. I have personally referred to my book of compliments during really
tough times in my life. During my first book signing I passed around a notebook
and asked my guest to write down words of encouragement for me. I had no idea
how important that book would become when I found myself years later battling
depression. You may hear people telling you to encourage yourself and it almost
becomes a cliché, but it’s not. Encouraging yourself will give you the
opportunity to live your life in a different perspective. You can embrace your
life for the teaching lessons that it offers, the ability to see yourself in a
brighter light, and opportunity to love yourself

If you have the desire to see yourself
differently, than you just have to start seeing yourself differently. It may
take some time, but you can do it! Writing out all of your personal pros and
cons will allow you to see how you truly see yourself. Look at the cons and
realize what you can improve and what you have no control over. The areas in
which you can make some changes, commit to a small goal to improve whatever it
is that you are not satisfied with. The things that you cannot change, write
down a more positive way of viewing that area in your life. The way you see
yourself is only a reflection of your thoughts.

Marita Kinney,BCC

Hello World! Sorry that I haven't been blogging in a while, however I've been extremely productive! My husband and I have just started a ministry in Bishopville, Sc. It's been an amazing journey and I look forward to what God is doing. He is so worthy to be praised! Being a blessing to this community makes our relocation well worth it. Please be sure to visit our ministries website and stop by if you're ever in town. and

I haven't forgotten about you guys...I promise! Now that things have slowed down, I'll be blogging more, writing more books, and being creative!

My New Logo!!!!

I'm so excited to share with you all my new logo. God has placed it on my heart to discuss the many layers of a woman. I have been pondering on this for over a year and now it's time to stop pondering and begin to encourage the average woman who discovers that she is far from being average.

Life As a Mom!!!

So as women we have to daily prioritize. Now this would be great to have a consistent list of things to do. However, if you’re anything like me, your list of priorities and task change daily. I sometimes wake up and have my day planned out in my head…in my head lol. My head is not always in tune with my reality.

If you understand my struggle then at least type “Amen” lol. Well yesterday I was suppose to clean the house, do laundry, and work on my new book. Instead it started off with me dealing with my 15 yr old son who believes that I don’t know what it’s like to be a Then the dryer decided to stop working, my oldest daughter woke up with pink eye, and my 2yr daughter keeps peeing on the floor instead of in her potty. Yes, this is a typical day for me. Just as I was adapting to my new priority list, I received a call from middle daughter’s school. Someone accidently pushed her into the desk and was told by the school nurse that she needed stiches. Did I mention that they’re beauty pageant was in 5 days? Yep! So as soon as I got used to my daily changes, my duty as a mother was challenged. The day ended with school issues, medical issues, potty training issues, teenager issues, and my coffee shop remained closed because I was a mom all day. The good news is……I’m ready for tomorrow and I’m thankful to be able to be here for my children.