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How to Encourage Yourself

Life can be overwhelming sometimes and
you could fall into depression if you lack daily encouragement. It’s easier to
stay encouraged than to pull yourself out from depression. Most of us agree that
preventive maintenance is better than digging yourself out from being depressed
or discouraged. There are many benefits to having a positive attitude and being
encouraged especially when you’re experiencing hard times. Lack of encouragement
can cause some women to feel rejected, insignificant, and under-appreciated. I
must inform you that if you’re seeking outside validation then you may become
disappointed each time. You have to search within yourself and pull out that
inner strength of knowing your worth and value. It’s dangerous to sit around and
wait for other people to affirm you. What if no one takes the time to encourage
you? When you chose to hand over that control to someone else, your happiness is
placed in the palm of their hand and you become the victim if they fail to meet
your expectations.

Encouraging yourself will take some
practice. You must learn to cancel out your negative thoughts by an abundance of
positive thoughts towards yourself. Your mind and thoughts can become your worst
enemy and it will take some work to lead your thoughts and not follow your
negative thoughts. Here are some tips to practice

  •  Do Not trust your
    feelings-sometimes your emotions can and will deceive you.
  • Focus on
    your assets and not your short comings.
  • Surround
    yourself with positive people.
  • When
    receiving advice, ALWAYS consider the source.
  • Don’t ignore
    compliments, write down the compliments that people give you.
  • Whenever you
    get discouraged refer to your compliment notes.

Writing your compliments down could
literally become a life saver. There are times in life when you may become too
weak mentally, emotionally, and spiritually to pull any encouragement out. If
this ever happens, your book of compliments can offer you the encouragement that
you need. I have personally referred to my book of compliments during really
tough times in my life. During my first book signing I passed around a notebook
and asked my guest to write down words of encouragement for me. I had no idea
how important that book would become when I found myself years later battling
depression. You may hear people telling you to encourage yourself and it almost
becomes a cliché, but it’s not. Encouraging yourself will give you the
opportunity to live your life in a different perspective. You can embrace your
life for the teaching lessons that it offers, the ability to see yourself in a
brighter light, and opportunity to love yourself

If you have the desire to see yourself
differently, than you just have to start seeing yourself differently. It may
take some time, but you can do it! Writing out all of your personal pros and
cons will allow you to see how you truly see yourself. Look at the cons and
realize what you can improve and what you have no control over. The areas in
which you can make some changes, commit to a small goal to improve whatever it
is that you are not satisfied with. The things that you cannot change, write
down a more positive way of viewing that area in your life. The way you see
yourself is only a reflection of your thoughts.

Marita Kinney,BCC



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