Layers of a Woman

Layers of a Woman
Complicated Like Every Woman I Know

Sunday, April 21, 2013


God loves you in spite of your past. Have the courage to forgive yourself even when others reminisce on your pain and short comings.


There has been times in my life when I should have just shut up. But there's freedom in speaking out about something that tugs on you heart. When you keep secrets hinder inside of you, it eats away at your conscious. Satan loves to keep you held hostage to your secrets. But be bold enough to share what's in your heart. Honestly is better than judgment. Who the on sets FREE is free indeed. John 8

Thursday, April 11, 2013

National Sibling Day!

Just realized that today is Sibling Day????? um Well It's my birthday and it brought me great joy to think my brother Westley on today. Westley use to call me names, say that I was ugly, send me to my room, yell at me, fight with... me, play pranks on me, and made me cry countless times.....I later learned that brothers show their love in that and to my brother David Portis, I love you and hope to see you again someday.

it's Fill In the Blank Thursday!!! "My biggest pet peeve of all pet peeves is ____________________________!!!!"

Being called Sweetie or Hun from another Grown Woman.....Really!!!! That's not cute...I use those terms for my children....all six of

Tuesday, April 9, 2013


Today as I read some of my book reviews, I was wrapped in God's presence as He reminded me why I was CHOSEN to write....Praise God! I am only a servant.?...What has God asked of you?

Sunday, April 7, 2013

They've changed my life

Being a mom is one thing that most little girls desire to be. When I was a child I never thought about how many children I wanted, but I was certain that I wanted to be a mom. I'm now four days shy of being 31 years old and I'm a proud mother of six. I never realized how much confidence it took to have such a big family, but found out quickly. Wherever we go, we definitely turn heads and put stare wondering to themselves how we do it. If people knew my story, they'd understand the value that I have for family. Most of the people in my nuclear family have died, leaving me as my mother's only child. It was hard growing up with siblings my whole life and by the age of 19....well, it was only me and my mother. Today I'm grateful for my children and to have a wonderful husband who's a great father. He met me when I was a widow with three kids and stuck by me as I healed. Today we have become a strong family and laugh at those ignorant people who pass judgement on us as we walk by. God has allowed us to become an example of what is means to be family. Our children represent our love and our future.

Friday, April 5, 2013

May I Have Your Undivided Attention, Please?

Eye contact and body language are critical when communicating with your spouse. There are so many distractions due to modern-day technology, and it is making communication skills become less personable. Lack of communication within a marriage can make you or your spouse feel neglected. It is extremely frustrating talking to an individual when you feel their mind is somewhere else. Active listening is a crucial part of communication. Have you ever heard your spouse say something and interpreted what they were saying in an entirely different way? It is essential that you reiterate what you heard to make sure that you heard them correctly. When you fail to give your spouse undivided attention during a conversation, it is more likely to be misinterpreted. Look your spouse straight in the eyes and don’t focus on anything else.

Giving your spouse undivided attention on a conversation is also a sign of showing respect. It is crucial to let your spouse know that you are genuinely listening. Feeling disrespected by your spouse can lead to resentment and that is a recipe for disaster. Choosing to multi-task during a conversation can be interpreted as, “What you are saying is not important enough for me to stop what I’m doing to listen to you.” Lack of communication is an enormous problem in marriages. The most effective marriages include listening to your spouse without any distractions.

Many of us are guilty of giving attention to things that do not truly matter. Although you cannot control your spouse into practicing the same communication tools mentioned in this article, you can start to set an example of giving undivided attention to your spouse. By practicing this type of communication, you make the other person feel respected and significant. There have been countless times when my husband was speaking to me and I’ve been looking down at my iPad or vice versa. One day, I had an epiphany and started to ask myself, “Is this email more important than what my husband is trying to talk to me about?” Of course not. I made a decision that day to give my loved ones my undivided attention. Multi-tasking during a conversation is a sure way to dismiss the value in what’s being said. The “Golden Rule” sums up everything: “Treat people the way you want to be treated.” If having someone’s undivided attention is something that you desire, you may first want to start practicing the same method of communication. No one likes to feel insignificant. I was once told that “you teach people how to treat you.”

Thursday, April 4, 2013

Love yourself

What I love most about everything that I am and everything that I'm not. What about you?